Swinggcat: How To Turn A Friend Into A Lover...

Question About Girls Just Wanting To Be Friends:

Hi Swinggcat,

I just read your newsletter about having women in your life
and it really rang true to me. I think too many guys discard
both the usefulness and pleasure of having female friends.
It's actually something I've tried to maintain for myself,
but I've had a problem with it I'd hope you could help me
with. See, one thing I noticed during my college years was
that there were two types of women:

1) The women I wanted to go out with but wanted to be
friends with me; and 2) The women I wanted as friends but
didn't want anything to do with me at all! It was very
strange. There would be women I wanted to be just platonic
with but they just didn't want to hang around me. However,
when I pursued a girl (and didn't get her of course), she
was more than happy to have me as a "good friend."

Do you have any insight into that? I'd appreciate any tips
you could give me.

By the way, your book is great.

- D from San Diego , CA

Swinggcat's response:

The directions I gave in my newsletter, Having Women In Your
Life, were to...

Make Five Female Friends Possessing The Characteristics Of
The Type Of Woman You'd Like To Attract!

A few words of caution: Making friends with a woman does not
mean figuratively shoving an estrogen suppository up your
rear, making you into one of her sympathetic girlfriends who
eagerly await hearing about her latest boy disaster tale.

Be a man, not gimp. Treat her no different than you'd treat
one of your buddies.

Also, courting a woman you're only friends with - like, for
example, buying her flowers - is probably the quickest road
to squelching both the friendship and any attraction that is
there.

It is the equivalent of Medieval-style torturing both your
ego and penis, and then having them shipped off to a
euthanasia ward to be put to their demise.

In her eyes you're acting incongruent with the conditions of
the relationship you accepted or set with her - you are
friends, not a married couple!

But this doesn't mean you can't get sexual with her. Later
on I'm going to reveal exactly how to do this...

So Keep Reading !

Becoming friends with women you're attracted to is one of
the best investments you can make - even if you never get
jiggy with them - because...

1) You'll become comfortable around the type of women you'd
like to attract. When you're comfortable around women your
chances of attracting them are a lot higher.

2) You'll learn the subtleties and nuances of their psyche,
giving you the power to engage and attract these types of
women with ease.

3) They'll introduce you to their attractive friends. If a
woman is your type, chances are, many of her friends are
also your type.

Because you're friends with her, you'll have the opportunity
to meet and attract all of her friends - this is multi-level
marketing at its best!

To answer your question: I'd capitalize on women you fell
short of attracting by becoming friends with them. Not all
of them. Just the ones you find attractive, inside and out.

And if any of them treat you like a dilapidated gimp, shunt
them through the "exit only" door of your reality. You
wouldn't keep up a friendship with a guy who disrespected
you, right?

I bet the girls you wanted a platonic friendship with
weren't really your type anyway. So don't emotionally beat
yourself senseless over this. There loss, not yours.

Question About Befriending Lady's Men:

What's up Swinggcat,

Hey,

I can not wait till your audios come out bro. Seriously, I
want to listen to them until it is fully engrained. Can you
give us a hint about when they might be for sale? Out of the
many I've checked out, you are the very best!

Question: I'm starting to learn how to generate attraction
inside of women and it's very exciting, but it's more
difficult doing it when you're on a mission by yourself. I
don't really have many male friends so I usually go out
alone, which puts out a different energy vibe when you open
the set.

You said you used to befriend men with game in bars. (Were
there times when you went out just by yourself? What's the
mindset?) I need advice on making friends with successful
'high status' guys. Sounds retarded but I think you can feel
me. Reading "How to Win Friend and Influence People" helps,
but not really, in this paradoxical 'real world'. Any books
or audios you recommend. Maybe you should create systems of
'how to make friends with anyone.' Then you would be the
ultimate. Please help in the best way you know. Thanks.

- A from Washington

Swinggcat's response:

About the new audios: The material in them is very advance
and extremely powerful.

It addresses and gives quick-and-easy solutions to a missing
piece prevalent in almost every guy's game – even those who
think they've got skills with da ladies.

After listening to my new course a friend of mine said,
“Holy shit, man… you're gonna put your competitors out of
business with this course!”

In preparation for my new course study and review my ebook
Real World Seduction and my audio course Foundations For
Generating Attraction.

In the next couple of weeks I'll tell you more about what's
contained inside.

Onto your question…

I'm going to share a story with you. A few years back, I was
out at a nightclub with a friend of mine.

Alas, he got violently ill and decided to go home. I had a
few drinks in me and wasn't in the mood to risk getting a
DUI.

I was left with these two options: Either I could sit in my
car and give myself a hypno lap dance until I sobered up or
I could go back into the night club.

I spent a few minutes brooding over how all of the women at
the bar would look at me as if I had the words "I'm a loser
because I'm alone!" written in permanent red marker across
my forehead.

Then, out of nowhere, I snapped and made the decision to go
into the bar.

Maybe it was the alcohol talking. Maybe it was because there
was a full moon out. I dunno?

I entered the bar and like a battering ram I charged
headlong into the first group of girls in sight.

I ended up really hitting it off with one of them. I was
digging her and she was digging me. I could just feel the
sexual attraction between the both of us. As I was holding
onto her hands, I looked into her eyes and pulled her
closely into me as if I was about to kiss her. I could tell
she wanted to kiss me.

Instead of kissing her, I said: "You are such an awesome
girl that I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship by hooking
up."

She looked a little disappointed but acquiesced to "being
only friends." For the rest of the night I made her my
wingman, helping me get several phone numbers of other
women.

But here's the kicker: I still ended up sleeping with her
that night. In a bit, I'll reveal to you how I was able to
TURN A FRIEND INTO A LOVER. So keep reading.

I had a great time and have been out alone dozens and dozens
of times since. Going out alone has given me some
interesting insights:

1) Having the skill to go out alone communicates to your
unconscious mind that your success with women and people is
not dependent on others. You'll unknowingly give off to
women an air of confidence, charisma, and power.

2) Women see guys as losers who feel like losers for being
out alone. If you communicate to women that being out alone
doesn't bother you in the slightest, they WILL NOT JUDGE YOU
AS A LOSER.

3) Going out by yourself is a surefire way to increase your
success with women because... It Forces You To Interact With
Lots Of Them!

Women make much better wingmen than guys.

So, if I were you, I'd focus more on befriending girls you
can use as wingmen to help you meet and attract other women.

Most women could care less if you're with another guy. Of
course, there are exceptions - like if she's a swinger
looking to have a ménage à trois with you and your buddy.

However - and I don't know if this is biological hardwiring
or cultural conditioning...

Women Feel Attraction Toward Men In The Company Of Other
Women!

Does this mean that if a woman sees you with other women
she'll indubitably FEEL attraction toward you? No - but
she's more likely to!

Question About Turning Friends Into Lovers:

Hello Swinggcat,

So far your book is awesome stuff!!

Here is my Q: Some of my friends have female FRIENDS (and I
mean like close friends they share concerns with etc) whom
they sometimes hook up with.

One friend for example, has an ex who hooks up with him
sometimes.

These people are somehow able to keep good friendship with
the girls, they talk to them often but they still have them
wanting to have sex. I thought that if one is friends with a
girl, it means you'relike her fem buddies and no booty for
you?

How can one be friends with chicks without having them "put
a skirt" on you and feel no attraction? Are there some
special prizability rules for that?

Thanks for your time.

Yours,

- A from NYC, NY.

Swinggcat's Response:

I've never heard the term "fem buddy" before. LOL! Love it!
I'll have to use this.

Many a man has felt attraction toward a girl but didn't know
how to proceed because it had already been established that
they were "just friends." As she was yapping away, he stared
at her vacantly, feeling sponge-brained as he hemmed and
hawed over how to make the first move.

Sounds like you've been in a similar plight, yes? I dunno?
I've been there truckloads of times. Several years ago,
however, I discovered a secret largely unknown by most men..

Irrevocably Changing My Perspective On "Just Being Friends"
With Women!

I realized the mistake most guys make is in thinking they
have to coax a woman they are friends with into seeing them
as a potential boyfriend before making a move on her.

Think of the guy, for example, who attentively watches and
listens as his gal pal wails over her current love life;
and, then, assures her that he'd make a better boyfriend
than her current one.

Or, to take another example, think of the guy who's been
friends with a woman for years and finally gets up the gall
to tell her his true feelings. These cases are penis
suicide.

They're as damaging as wiring your wiener to an electrical
outlet and then soaking it with beer...because...

They're Incongruent With The Already Established "Just Being
Friends" Condition That Has Been Set On The Relationship!

But here's where things take a bizarre turn for the better.

Many women have no qualms about sleeping with guy friends.
To many of these women, sleeping with a guy is less of a big
deal than dating or becoming his girlfriend.

Surprise surprise, women have sexual needs too. Even women
who explicitly tell you that they are only open to having a
platonic relationship are probably more will to having sex
with you than you think.

I should know. Most of the women I've been friends with whom
explicitly stated that our relationship was strictly
platonic, I ended up sleeping with.

When women tell men that they only want to be friends, most
men feel a bit disappointed - and women pick up on this.

When women say this to me, I always look relieved as I
utter, "Thank God... I'm glad you realize that you don't
have a chance with me."

But this is solely for my own amusement because...

I Know It Is Only A Matter Of Time Before I Boink Them!

Admittedly, a big part of the reason I'm able to do this is
because...

I Have Mastered The Necessary Skills For Quickly Generating
Massive Attraction And Getting Physical With Women!

So here's my advice to you: Don't in any way, shape or form
try to persuade a woman you're friends with into dating or
considering you as her boyfriend.

Work, instead, on generating attraction and, then, getting
physical with her.

Of course, this is easier said than done if you neither have
the tools to generate attraction in her nor the necessary
knowledge to properly get physical with her.

This is where I come in: I've put together an audio course
called Foundations For Generating Attraction where you'll
learn the secrets to generate massive attraction in women,
emotionally compelling them to want and reach and chase for
more of You.

Warning: if you're not careful with these secrets, you risk
creating a stalker. They're that powerful! So be careful how
you use them. I'm about giving women a wonderful experience.
Not hurting them.

Also - inside my course you'll learn step-by-step how to
transform the attraction you've generated inside a woman
into rapidly getting intimate with her.

Have you ever had an attractive woman flirt with you or
laugh at a joke you made that wasn't particularly funny or
look at you in a way that suggested she was interested...yet
you never ended up getting intimate with her. Maybe she felt
attraction toward you?

Maybe not?

A lot of times, however, women act in these ways toward men
because they do feel attraction for them. Yet most of the
time nothing happens because...

Most men don't know the steps to turning attraction women
feel toward them into intimacy.

If most men knew these steps the average woman would have
hundreds of sexual partners because...

Similar to men, women feel attraction toward dozens of men a
day.

Even if you consider yourself to be an unattractive guy,
chances are, there have been heaps of gorgeous women who
felt attraction toward you, yet you didn't get intimate with
them....even though you would have loved to.

Just think: What if you could have gotten intimate with all
these women?

"How 'bout the women who feel no attraction toward me?" you
might be thinking to yourself.

What if it was possible to even get intimate with these
women? What if you could even make these women feel
attraction toward you and then get physical with them?

What would that be like?

In my experience, it's very possible. If you believe
otherwise, you're cheating yourself out of the life you
deserve to live.

Your Loyal Dating Coach,
Swinggcat