Zan's Powerful Technique

I don't know if this has been suggested before. I have read most
of TFM and lots of the archive and don't remember seeing
anything like it, so I'm sorry if this is not new.

(Subconscious interjection: Move through life without apology,
Zan!)

Wait a minute! I take that apology back.

I haven't heard anyone mention something like this but IME, it
is a very powerful technique. Here is the essence of it: Profess
your undying affection and devotion to the girl - and then NEXT
her.

When to use this? When you have seen her several times, you have
had great rapport, but now it feels like she is starting to
flake. If your thing with a girl was hot at one time (she
tongued you down, lots of EV and talking, etc), but now you
sense the whole thing is starting to drift towards LJBF land,
and you have nothing else to lose, try this. It just might help
to resurrect a moribund relationship with a girl.

Or if you really like a girl but you have done some stupid AFC
moves (and who among us haven't?) and she is starting to lose
interest, try this.

I have used this before to devastating effect. It sounds very
AFC at first blush, but hear me out. Notice the difference
between these two paragraphs (which I just made up and are
cheesy, but it's just to illustrate what I mean):

AFC: I think about you day and night. You are so beautiful and I
adore you. I can't wait to see you again.

PUA: I think about you day and night. You are so beautiful and I
adore you. But now I must go. You have touched me on a very deep
level and it is more than I can bear. I am helpless before other
women and I will only hurt you and myself. I can't see you
anymore.

Say the first phrase to a girl and she thinks "Ha ha, I have a
yappy new lapdog. Buy me dinner!" Zero challenge; she has
already won.

Say the second phrase and it throws her into a whirlwind of
emotions. Her whole world becomes the cover of a romance novel.
Her nurturing instinct kicks into high gear (after all, you are
a victim of your desires and she must save you). She knows she
is about to lose you. And she senses that you are about to run
to the arms of ten other women for comfort.

It is very powerful. But the key is that she has to know that
you really mean it. It has to be believable. You are *really*
not going to see her anymore. And you should believe it too.
After all, it was going cold already anyway and she was probably
going to LJBF you.

And this is important - say it and then split. Get the hell out
of Dodge. What I have found is that in a lot of cases, she will
become obsessed with you. You will be bombarded with emails and
phone calls from her. It is almost impossible for her to resist
this challenge.

She almost certainly will try to coax you back. But only if you
do this move while your rapport is still fairly strong and
things are still going reasonably well between you two when you
ditch her.

And when she contacts you, you must remain congruent and never
let her feel she has you. From this point on. And the beauty is
that you *can* go back to seeing her, but now you are the one
with value. You are the prize. And you are the one that appears
ready to leave at any moment. She WILL work to keep you.

And you have established the fact that you see other women and
you can't help it. And she can't complain about this because you
told her the way you are and that she might get hurt. But she
still wants you anyway.

I pulled this on a girl recently. We were making out and I was
kissing her neck and stuff and we were both feeling really good.

Using a poem from the manual (and slightly altering it), I said
something like:

ME: (kissing her neck and talking very slowly) You know what I
am, HB? I am your teardrop... I was conceived in your heart... I
was born in your eyes... I live on your cheeks... and I will die
on your lips.

Then while lightly kissing her lips, I said some variation of
the adoration / Nexting phrase I mentioned earlier. And then I
got up and took off.

This girl was almost certainly going to flake out on me, but now
she calls me every night, wants to see me, understands that she
is not exclusive, wants to save me, etc.

In fact, I have used this as a way to establish almost every one
of my MLTRs.

Try it...

Zan