Neil Strauss (Style): What Most People Do Wrong When Approaching

When I went out the first night on Mystery's workshop, I
tried an experiment. I approached a set, opened, and then
DHV'd. [Demonstration of higher value.] And not a single
set stuck. I didn't reach the hook point. Everything seemed
sort of flat, until I finally just excused myself.

This happened because I had dropped two important pieces
out of my game. If you know what they are already, then you
are obviously already successful in the field.

The next day, I did the exact same thing, except I added
Negs and Time Constraints to the approach. Everything flew
open. I was pulling girls off of guys left and right.

So, if you are approaching, but not having success getting
in with the set, go out tonight and add negs and time
constraints to the first three minutes of your approach. It
makes a huge difference.

For those who don't have this material, here's an example:

TIME CONSTRAINT: I can only stay for a minute, because I
have to rejoin my friends over there.

NEG: Oh my God, is she always like that? How do you roll
with her?

And, a third point, which I've made often. In order for an
approach to work in a bar or club, you must enter the set
with an energy/fun level equal to or slightly greater than
its current energy level. If you walk in not smiling,
talking softly, and with bad body language, you're going to
get blown out, no matter what you say right.

Hope this helps some people...

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