Neil Strauss (Style): Active Disinterest

Someone asked about using a neg as an opener in a recent
thread. The reply is: Yes, in fact you MUST neg to open
sometimes or you won't get in. In the scene I've been
sarging in lately, with highly socially proofed girls who
are 9s and 10s, negs are the ONLY way to open. I'll explain
in a mini FR below. It's unbelievable: every girl assumes
anything you say (opinion openers, C&F, whatever) is
hitting on her, because she's so used to it.

So the best way to sarge is to have:

Social Proof
A Good Looking Pivot
Neg right away--make her NOT like you first.

I've found that with an HB, if you can get her to NOT like
you and then REFRAME and get her to really like you within
a couple minutes, you are so IN it's ridiculous.

I recently had an epiphany, and I'll share it here: I
realized that I have been doing something REALLY wrong for
a while. Normally, in a strip club or at a party with a
SHB, I'd just ignore her. Then, after some time, I'd
eventually work my way around to doing my material.

But, what works with these girls, is conveying ACTIVE
DISINTEREST. And this doesn't mean just throwing a neg in
there. It means totally being obnoxious and rude to them.
The challenge is that, as soon as you meet one of these
girls, you MUST talk right away. But for most of these
girls, simply talking to them is an IOI in itself. So you
must give them an active IOD. I've realized that the steps
are this to get in -- and this is all pre-opener.

I. You must come in strong, with great body language, and
be so non-needy. You must totally shoot her down before she
even opens her mouth. This means not ignoring her, but
talking instantly and talking down to her.

II. Then a shit test will follow. You must pass this. And
to do it you must not backtrack on your earlier statement.
You may reframe it, but you can not under any circumstances
take it back or apologize for it.

III. Once you pass the shit test, you are pretty much in.
Here you can reframe your relationship ("we are so
different" -- pacing --- "we're like two characters in a
romantic comedy, like Audrey Hepburn and Cary Grant" --
reframing.

IV. Now you can go into your opener.

I've just noticed with socially proofed hottie
actress/models wanna-bes, their self-esteem is
simultaneously SUPER-LOW and SUPER-HIGH at the same time.
And this is a huge epiphany, because you must feed into her
low self esteem without triggering her high self-esteem. If
you let her know she has you, you've lost.

This has been on my mind lately because I had two
interesting experiences the other day.

I. I was introduced to a hottie. I started to demonstrate
value, and she just was not listening. It wasn't going in
her ears. I walked away and started talking to her friends.
Again, without being rude at all, they just were NOT
listening --- even though moments before we had all
exchanged names and been introduced. (In retrospect, I
should have just CALLED THEM on their shitty manners.)

II. I was introduced to another hottie a 9.5. Within
minutes, I called her retarded. She got pissed.

I did my teasing is affection routine. She was still
pissed. I told her "I refuse to apologize, it's the way I
am. Everyone is my bratty little sister until they prove
otherwise." She was still arguing with me. So I said, "I'll
tell you what. Let's start all over....Hi, I'm Style."

Then we fluffed (and I did the Cary Grant line). But the
interesting thing is that she would have had ZERO interest
in fluffing with me if I hadn't totally insulted her and
passed her shit test first.

Later, she was all over me, and hinted that I should get
her number. I completely ignored her hint. Then later she
just gave it to me.

So, anyway, I'd like to disuss other ways of conveying
ACTIVE DISINTEREST. Especially casual openers and neg
openers, like that old FR when I asked the HB10 and 11 if
their hair was real, LOL. Would love to hear other ideas!