Why Being You Is More Important?

[yoni4u]

I love theorising about art of seduction, men and women and relationships. Its a debate that will continue for ever, mostly because it is all based upon a point of view. A art of seduction technique that might work on one woman might result in a slapped face if tried on another woman.

The point is, you can not pigeon hole people into categories, especially when were dealing with high emotions. Were all different; the real art of seduction is taking the time to understand and appreciate people for who they are.

Its worth repeating, art of seduction is taking the time to understand and appreciate people for who they are. How often in your life has someone taken the time to speak to you, ask you questions and show that they are genuinely interested in you and just you.

No ulterior motive, no emotional trade offs, just quality time spent getting to know you. I can almost guarantee, if you have experienced this the likelihood is that you were spellbound by the attention. You were the centre of attention. In a nut shell that is art of seduction.

As people, we all like to feel as though we are the centre of attention, we like to feel valued, of interest and need the comfort that people want to spend time with us for no other reason than simply because of whom we are.

It makes us feel good, it raises our confidence and self belief, and we all want to spend time with people that make us feel this way. Are you starting to see it now? By making people feel great about them, you are creating an invisible bond of association.

So you can disregard all of the other advice about art of seduction. Its not a science; its not something that can be achieved by buying a particular brand of drink or saying complimentary things about the way someone looks. The good news is that it is something that we can all do if we put our minds to it.

In summary, take the time to speak with people. Listen to them and devote yourself to the conversation.

Take the time to understand them and have empathy with them, you'll soon start to see marked improvements in your art of seduction success rate. You'll also start to feel like you are contributing more to people and receiving a lot more back. Treat people as people, not as an object, this is art of seduction is all about.

Yoni.

[Attractology]

There is a lot of wisdom in what you have written Yoni about the importance of listening skills and connecting and understanding women on an emotional level.  Those aren't just skills guys might need, they are necessities.  I would stop short of recommending guys to disregard all seduction advice.  The best seduction advice focuses on listening to women, building rapport, creating attraction, giving value and so on.  There is BAD advice out there, don't believe everything you read and be wary of promises of quick fixes.  Maybe this is a issue with the definition of seduction.

[Chictrap]

Women's bs radar goes off if they realize it's just not you.
Like a seismograph sort of thing.

[Count Duckula]

Thanks - great post!

[pedro2385]

The one thing i will not do is lie. I don't lie in real life and i will not lie to try and seduce a women. Piece of advice, to be a really good liar you have to have a really good memory. Firstly my memory is not that good  , seriously tho it is just seems like too much hassle.

I want to enjoy myself when i am meeting women not worrying what lies i have told her already.